While working on my academic assignment at university, I had a chance to meet a few people fighting against the chronic diseases with a knowledge of having only weeks to live. I can recall that denial was the first reaction, followed by anger, despair and eventually acceptance.
I used to talk to these individuals in an attempt to inquire about any regrets and concluded that most of the patients had following five regrets in common.
1. Sacrificing Their Dreams to Satisfy Other’s Expectations
All of these individuals waiting for their death hated living a life based on the expectations of others. After knowing that soon it’s going to be all over, their unfulfilled dreams struck back and made them realize the lack of courage during the heydays. Incredibly, one of my respondents asked me to promise her that I’d never suppressed my dreams and wouldn’t follow the path suggested by others in the surroundings. It gave me a priceless lesson, don’t hesitate to do what pleases you; if you don’t, you disrespect yourself.
2. Hard Work Consumed Their Heydays
Almost all the male patients held themselves guilty of working so hard throughout their lives. Hard work took over their lives they said. They didn’t find enough time to spend with their family members. They were so consumed by a daily routine that they didn’t even realize the importance of spending time with their kids and life partners. A second chance, they said would be more about spending happy moments with the beloved ones because now they realize that chasing money wasn’t the really wise choice.
3. Inability to Speak Their Minds or Express Their Emotions
These patients finally realized their inability to express their emotions. They found themselves guilty of suppressing their emotions and holding their minds back. And fairly true, I mean it’s a great mistake most of us commit by trying to keep everyone happy even knowing that it’s virtually impossible. For some reason or the other, we all fall into this trap and regret as we grow.
4. Inability to Stay In Touch with Their Friends
Each of these patients missed their old days and recalling their fast friends broke them to tears. They hate lacking the ability to stay consistently in touch with their friends. Daily routine consumed them so much that they didn’t even realize how much somebody missed their presence.
5. Failure to Stay Happier
Till the last days of their lives, these patients failed to understand that happiness is a choice. Now that they only have weeks to live, despair prevails their minds but these revelations, for sure, brings to us some important lessons
Just imagine yourself replacing any of these patients and enlist your top regrets in an attempt to address things at least to some extent to make things easier for your last days.
We All Have Regrets!
Life, sometimes presents harsh realities and it becomes tough. There is no doubt that each of us has some sort of regrets. Nobody is perfect and we commit mistakes. Ideally, we need to learn from the mistakes of others.
I’m grateful to these people who helped me point out some of the common mistakes which turn out to be the most hated regrets at the old age.
We need to understand that happiness is a choice and we mustn’t suppress it by prioritizing money. We work hard to earn money thinking that money will make our life happier.
We don’t realize that we sacrifice too much while chasing better earning options.
Our lives eventually reach close to an end and we find no time to relive the moments we wasted in chasing money.
Listen to your inner voice, speak your mind, express yourself and spend more and more time with your beloved ones.